Pathway to Peace

You know those moments when you're desperately trying to understand why your kiddo is having a meltdown over the color of their cereal bowl or they won't put their socks and shoes on because "they feel weird?" Yeah, been there! Sometimes, when it's happening, it's no big deal for me, and sometimes it feels so frustrating and exhausting, and I'm wondering if my kid will ever just "go with the flow?" I just need and want things to be easy and less chaotic. You, too? This is where Attachment Science comes in. It's like having a special recipe, guiding us through the beautiful mess of parenting. It's not just a buzzword; it's a main ingredient in the secret sauce of parenting and all relationships. For those of us who had childhoods that were a little under or over cooked, or too much of one ingredient and not enough of another, our attachments might not be quite as secure as they could be or need to be. And it can be transformative to our relationships to heal ourselves and to create an attachment that is secure. Why Attachment Science? It's not just about the big milestones or moments; it's the everyday connections. It's remembering the importance of being present when your little one is excitedly telling you about their day, the new level they beat in their game, or the cool rock they found. It's getting down to their level and meeting them with empathy when they're having big feelings over a broken toy, and it's having understanding when they wanted to go play with friends and couldn't. It's holding space for our teens and their irritability when a boundary they don't like has been set. It's the ingredient that holds our hearts together. If you, like me, experienced the flavors of a challenging childhood, Attachment Science is the binder. It's what brings everything together and keeps us together. It's about looking back at your own upbringing, rewriting the script, and creating a secure attachment with yourself. And THEN you are able to support your own kiddos in developing a secure attachment. How? By providing a safe haven for your children where they have a felt sense of being seen, heard, safe, and soothed. Where they FEEL loved. Where they FEEL loved for who they are. Where they FEEL loved no matter their behaviors or choices. And where they FEEL our total unconditional love.